Sunday, November 22, 2009
beauty?/ 12:18 AM
You know what?
Ever since i could remember, i was taught or more like brought up thinking that the outer layer of a person is all that matters (besides money that is...but thats not the point here). How good looking a person is or your partner is determines how happy you'll be. And ever since i could remember, that has been a set standard for me, never date a guy any less then what i expect. So to say it bluntly, i've never dated a guy just for their personality, solely for their looks. Yeah, i know that sounds horrible, it sounds down right shallow and typical. And yeah i agree with all that as well.
Society has brainwashed us into making us think in one way and only one way.
Hot, get him. Not, dump him.
Since we were young, we grow up with posters, billboards, tv commercials, media all around us showing beautiful, handsome girls and guys, an impossible, unachievable beauty. And with that, our mindset of what is beautiful and what is not, what is happiness and love is has been set by these exact medias all around us.
We see the fashion world, with all the pretty clothes, awesome accessories and amidst all this, we see the stick skinny models strutting up and down the runway. And with this, the perception of beauty in peoples eyes differs as well. Being stick skinny, something which is unnaturally skinny is now beautiful. And people trying to be "beautiful" will go to the extent of starving themselves and vomiting after every meal to achieve that stick skinny body. Is this really what beauty is? to go against nature, to hurt and torment urself to achieve what the media say is beautiful.
That is just an example of what the media and society has done to us. Brain draining us to think what they want us to think. to believe what they want us to believe. Not have our own perception or opinion. And its hard to break out of this cycle because we've grown up believing it.
I, myself testify to this. Even though i realize what is going on, even though i protest against this. Hate it, i just find my mind wandering back to what i first said. Is beauty really the route to happiness? Would i be alot happier if my partner was hot, handsome? And every time i catch myself wondering this, i hate myself as well. I'm happy with where i am, what i have. Why must i wonder of what it would be like if i had more. Beauty fades, over time you grow old and that once pretty/handsome face would be scarred with wrinkles indication and a reminder of time and how much of it has passed. Yeah we have botox, plastic surgery but how long and how much would that help?? Would we want to be hiding under a layer of plastic for the rest of our lives?
Well, the answers to those questions is something each of us would have to face one way or another.